Updated: Jan 26, 2021
Do you know your worth?
I'm sure we all have different answers to that question, but it's a serious question.
Do you know your worth?
Do you know how valuable you are?
Most importantly, do you know how valuable you are to God?
I know sometimes we think we've done things that may seem unforgivable, but God is constantly forgiving us and our sins. I've been there! I used to think God would only see my flaws, but now I know that in His eyes we are flawless. When we think the worst about yourselves, He thinks highly of us. When we think we're unlovable, He loves us unconditionally! When we think our life is in shambles, He'll show us grace!
We have to stop putting ourselves down and start viewing ourselves how God views us because His image of us is the only image that doesn't need validation, IT IS SO!
Regardless of what the world may think of us, it doesn't compare to how God views us, His daughters. The world will always have predetermined judgments of us, and I know it hurts! It hurts when people say things about us that can sometimes make us feel worthless. I've been there!
Growing up people would always compare me to my friends and that took a toll on me. It caused me to resent my friends. Not because of anything they did, but because of how everyone would view my imperfections in comparison to the "perfections" of others. That was the first time I experienced the feeling of "not feeling enough."
But I didn't know that those emotions and feelings of "not feeling enough" would affect me in the long run. In college, I dated this guy who would constantly put me down, and told me every chance that he got that I wasn't enough. I wasn't pretty enough, I didn't dress the way he liked, and everything I did wasn't "up to his standards", and so much more. Every day was a constant struggle of trying to make someone accept me, but nothing I did was enough. That relationship broke me.
I had finally had enough. My life was spiraling out of control. I went through a very dark phase where I was reckless, careless, and heartless. I became very mean towards men and my heart became very hardened. It wasn't until I found myself literally on my last leg was when God showed up and showed me that I am worth so much more!
I started to view myself in a different light. I started to view myself the way God views me. It didn't happen immediately, it took time to retrain my mind, to RENEW my mind, and to get back to the woman God had always planned for me to be. I had to find myself again. And when I did find myself, I made a promise to myself that I would never allow anyone to make me feel worthless again.
Here are some things that I experienced when I began my journey to finding myself and knowing my worth:
1. The freedom to genuinely be happy! You have the freedom to do things that you love, that you desire, and you don’t have to second guess whether or not if your happiness stems from others, it radiates from you! Your happiness is no longer determined by the opinions of others, but by how you view yourself!
2. Confidence! When you know your worth you walk a little different, talk a little different, and you glow a little different! You have spent so much time getting to know the woman you are becoming and when you begin to love who you are, you won’t let anyone taint that image that you have of yourself. And let me tell you, you can’t tell a confident woman anything!!!! Remember a moment in your life when you didn’t feel confident and you may have felt very self-conscious and the smallest things that someone would say would trigger you? That version of you was still learning and growing and trying to figure out who you are! But NOW that you have fully blossomed into who God has called you to be, and can’t anyone tell you otherwise!
3. Renewed mind! Renewing your mind and your thought process is so necessary when it comes to knowing your worth. It's important to check your thoughts because sometimes those thoughts aren’t always positive and those negative thoughts can remain in your mind for a very long time if you don’t deal with them properly. Once you've renewed your mind you’ll begin to see things through a new lens, and your vision will be more clear. The image you have of yourself will be more concrete and changing your thoughts lead to a healthier lifestyle overall because negativity can weigh you down spiritually, mentally, and physically. Obtaining a positive mindset is so essential when it comes to knowing your worth!
If you are struggling with knowing your worth, meditate on this: "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." (Psalm 139:14)
Remember, trust the journey, you will get to the other side.